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“A friend is one of the nicest things you can have, and one of the best things you can be.” - Douglas Pagels
Love Advice: Friendship between partners creates a strong foundation for a healthy marriage relationship.
“What draws friends together does not conform to the laws of nature.” - Rumi
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When you attempt to communicate with someone you may find an open, pleasant “circuit” that seems to effortlessly link the two of you.
To enjoy happy, healthy relationships you need to know how to reach people.
Reaching someone occurs naturally; it’s an organic process.
Difficult people are not necessarily unreachable. It just requires more patience and skill for building relationships with them.
When you attempt to communicate with someone you may find an open, pleasant “circuit” that seems to effortlessly link the two of you.
When this happens, it means that you and the other are “ripe” for relationship building or for a pleasing communication experience.
Just as ripe fruit comes off the vine without effort, “harvesting”another person’s understanding, agreement and cooperation happens easily with the relationship is “ripe” for it.
Ripeness for smooth communication means that what you have to say and the other person’s receptivity meet at a peak level.
But in other instances you may come up against a feeling of struggle and strain, a feeling of a broken relationship rather than a building relationship.
Just as the need to struggle to pluck fruit indicates that the fruit is not yet fully ripe, relationship conflict or struggle indicates that for whatever reason, the relationship is not yet ripe for the particular kind of cooperation that you are seeking.
A sense of disconnect is not necessarily a sign of a hopeless relationship – it is often just a sign that a more patient approach to relationship building is called for.
As it is wise to delay harvesting fruit until it has ripened on the vine, avoid impatient pushiness to force you want from your relationship.
Resistance is often an indication that you are attempting to make something happen faster than the natural ripening process permits.
If fear drives you into perpetuating a power-struggle against another person, you are actually in a relationship conflict with the organic ripening process and end up reaping the bitter fruit of butting heads.
To reach people successfully, avoid a self-defeating struggle against nature’s timing.
Instead of becoming pushy, ease up. When you feel relaxed, calm and secure, consider small, easy steps you can take to gradually build your relationship along a path of minimal or no resistance.
For more ease and success in communication and relationship building trust in and cooperate with the natural pace of the ripening process.
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Whatever YOUR relationship issues might be, paying more attention to YOURSELF will reveal your way out of strife and into peace.
Even the best relationships have problems.
Sooner or later, even if you start out believing that you are with your soul mate, relationship issues inevitably arise.
As hard as we work to resolve our issues, though, typically very little progress is made.
Despite relationship counseling, most often, we just learn to live with what we don’t like about the relationship, or we leave and learn to live without it.
There is an alternative. Here is some free relationship advice that you really can count on to resolve your relationship issues:
Regard any issues you have with another person as entirely self-created.
Recently someone who knew that I do couples coaching approached me at a party to request some free marriage counseling right there on the spot.
Because I love what I do, I was happy to engage in the conversation.
“Exactly what sort of marriage help are you looking for?” I asked.
“Can you me to save my marriage?”
I said that the best I could do was to try, and invited her to give me a brief account of her marriage problem.
She proceeded to run off a laundry list of issues, including, “He doesn’t communicate. He treats his work as more important than our relationship. He’s always late. I’m always kept guessing about what he is thinking, if he really loves me, if he even cares about the relationship…” The list went on.
When she ran out of issues, I offered her this bit of free couple counseling:
“While you believe you have a problem with marriage, you actually have a thinking problem.
“All this thought focused on what is wrong with your mate keeps you from recognizing how you are being wrong for your yourself.
“Stop wondering about your mate and focus instead on being better toward YOURSELF.”
“But I’m lonely and married,” she complained, her eyes welling up with tears.
“Again, that has to do with your relationship with yourself. Loneliness is actually a sign of being disconnected from ONESELF.
“The next time that you catch yourself wondering or worrying about your husband, immediately refocus your attention onto yourself.
“Notice how your thinking is impacting you. If it makes you feel married and lonely or uncomfortable in any way, instead of trying to control your husband, exercise more self-control by letting go of that train of thought.”
Whatever YOUR relationship issues might be, paying more attention to YOURSELF will reveal your way out of strife and into peace.
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The wisdom for creating a good relationship will dawn to guide you.
Guess where the best relationship help advice comes from.
It comes from experience. Those who know how to fix a relationship have gone through the pain of a broken relationship.
If your relationship is in trouble, realize that you are going through an opportunity for a real relationship help seminar.
Whatever emotional pain you might be in, seeing it as an opportunity for personal growth in relationship wisdom, can help.
You don’t necessarily need to seek a relationship expert for relationship advice. Just pay attention to your relationship experiences.
Look for what you can learn from every quarrel, ever tender hug and kiss, every moment of relationship unhappiness and relationship bliss.
Your relationship saving guide will arrive as you CONSCIOUSLY go through every relationship challenge as a student.
This relationship help applies to every type of relationship, including a romantic relationship, friendship and business associates. It can even be applied for better parent-child relationships.
For instance, lets say that you feel down because your relationship is not more exciting.
Look for your solution in the problem. In other words, pay attention to what is going on to see exactly what is causing your relationship to be off track, what is keeping it from being more exciting.
You might observe that you are your mate are approaching life too seriously too keep love alive in a lively way.
Perhaps you need stop working so hard at resolving conflict, and instead just let your conflicts come and go, letting them pass without struggling to fix your partner.
To receive relationship advice for more physical intimacy, for more lasting love, for better communication, instead of reacting against what you do not like, pay attention to what IS.
The wisdom for creating a good relationship will dawn to guide you.
Here is an exercise for relieving relationship help wisdom from within:
Please share the results of your exercises in this blog.
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When you feel inspired about relationship possibilities in life, you attract more wonderful relationship possibilities.
We need inspiration for relationships.
When you feel inspired about relationship possibilities in life, you attract more wonderful relationship possibilities.
Haven’t you had the experience of feeling really positive about yourself and your life, and in that positive state something magical occurred?
When you are in a great mood you are more personable. People feel uplifted just being around you. They feel drawn to you on an emotional level.
Advice for relationship attraction: To experience more inspiration for relationships, remember that you attract more of what you want when you feel positive, than when you feel negative.
If you doubt that you will ever find a really satisfying relationship, your doubt works against you finding more relationship satisfaction.
This is one reason why forgiveness works so much better than holding onto our issues.
When you feel down, upset, or annoyed, you repel positive people, relationships and experiences.
Isn’t it ironic that when we feel down about our current relationship (or no relationship) we are actually making it less likely that we will find the relationship satisfaction we long for?
Advice for relationship attraction: Whether you are currently in or out of a relationship, work yourself free of your grievances or feelings of discouragement as soon as you can. Work your way into more inspiration for relationships that will please you.
Here are two exercises for experiencing more inspiration for relationships:
Please share the results of your exercises for inspiration in relationships in the blog.
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Advice for self-change is most timely at the start of a new year.
Here is some of the most valuable relationship advice I know: Don’t give up on self-improvement.
No matter how many times you let yourself down by slipping into your old pattern, keep at it. You will achieve self-improvement and experience more fulfillment in your relationship.
Advice for self-change is most timely at the start of a new year. It is a great time for setting goals as resolutions.
Use these goals as your relationship guide for the year.
Follow this relationship advice by making a list of changes you want to make in yourself. Here is a sample, gleaned from participants in a Relationship-Guide Seminar I recently presented.
Sample Relationship Guide For Self-Improvement
Following the relationship advice of creating this relationship guide for self-improvement will help you make the changes you want from yourself.
This relationship advice will also help you avoid the common relationship mistake of focusing too much on the ways that we want our mate to change.
There is a law of relationship wisdom that applies here: Before you can receive improved relationship skills from your mate, you need to demonstrate improved relationship skills with your mate.
Happy Marriage Tips:
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Simply practice trusting in your love-life fulfillment, and your POWER TO TRUST WILL GROW.
Applying wisdom in your relationships produces great relationships.
Bringing more wisdom into how you relate is how to have a better relationship.
You don’t have to change your mate for a happy marriage. You simply have to grow wiser.
You CAN have the fulfilling love-relationship that your heart desires!
One essential aspect of the wisdom in relationships that makes that happen is training yourself to unconditionally trust in this.
When we DOUBT that we can have the satisfying love-relationship that
we crave, we are doing the OPPOSITE of how to have a better relationship.
TRUST that your satisfying, happy marriage is INEVITABLE and that NOTHING is preventing it from happening. If you actually practice this, you will discover that this is an amazing key for how to have a better relationship.
Here is a wisdom-in-relationships exercise for harnessing the power of trust:
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about harnessing the power of trust in this blog.
So even if you find yourself alone on a Saturday night, even when you and your mate have another pointless fight,
Don’t mentally dwell on any condition that you do not want to come about.Instead, trust that your fulfillment in love is absolutely guaranteed.
Simply practice trusting in your love-life fulfillment, and your POWER TO TRUST WILL GROW.
At the same time, your fulfillment in love will grow, as you apply this wisdom. In relationships, we are as happy as we are wise.
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