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How To Find Relationship Wisdom

By Bob Lancer
Monday, February 6th, 2012

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The wisdom for creating a good relationship will dawn to guide you.

Guess where the best relationship help advice comes from.

It comes from experience. Those who know how to fix a relationship have gone through the pain of a broken relationship.

If your relationship is in trouble, realize that you are going through an opportunity for a real relationship help seminar.

Whatever emotional pain you might be in, seeing it as an opportunity for personal growth in relationship wisdom, can help.

You don’t necessarily need to seek a relationship expert for relationship advice.  Just pay attention to your relationship experiences.

Look for what you can learn from every quarrel, ever tender hug and kiss, every moment of relationship unhappiness and relationship bliss.

Your relationship saving guide will arrive as you CONSCIOUSLY go through every relationship challenge as a student.

This relationship help applies to every type of relationship, including a romantic relationship, friendship and business associates. It can even be applied for better parent-child relationships.

For instance, lets say that you feel down because your relationship is not more exciting.

Look for your solution in the problem. In other words, pay attention to what is going on to see exactly what is causing your relationship to be off track, what is keeping it from being more exciting.

You might observe that you are your mate are approaching life too seriously too keep love alive in a lively way.

Perhaps you need stop working so hard at resolving conflict, and instead just let your conflicts come and go, letting them pass without struggling to fix your partner.

To receive relationship advice for more physical intimacy, for more lasting love, for better communication, instead of reacting against what you do not like, pay attention to what IS.

The wisdom for creating a good relationship will dawn to guide you.


Here is an exercise for relieving relationship help wisdom from within:

  1. Write down a simple statement of a relationship problem, like, “We seem to be drifting apart” or “The relationship lacks affection.”
  2. Then, describe the relationship solution you want in place of the relationship problem, like “we are interacting and feeling close” or “We affectionately touch one another to our mutual satisfaction.”
  3. The next step is to turn your relationship solution into relationship help wisdom by looking for opportunities to do those things that will bring you more of what you want.

Please share the results of your exercises in this blog.

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Inspiration for Relationships

By Bob Lancer
Friday, February 3rd, 2012

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When you feel inspired about relationship possibilities in life, you attract more wonderful relationship possibilities.

We need inspiration for relationships.

When you feel inspired about relationship possibilities in life, you attract more wonderful relationship possibilities.

Haven’t you had the experience of feeling really positive about yourself and your life, and in that positive state something magical occurred?

When you are in a great mood you are more personable.  People feel uplifted just being around you.  They feel drawn to you on an emotional level.

Advice for relationship attraction: To experience more inspiration for relationships, remember that you attract more of what you want when you feel positive, than when you feel negative.

If you doubt that you will ever find a really satisfying relationship, your doubt works against you finding more relationship satisfaction.

This is one reason why forgiveness works so much better than holding onto our issues.

When you feel down, upset, or annoyed, you repel positive people, relationships and experiences.

Isn’t it ironic that when we feel down about our current relationship (or no relationship) we are actually making it less likely that we will find the relationship satisfaction we long for?

Advice for relationship attraction: Whether you are currently in or out of a relationship, work yourself free of your grievances or feelings of discouragement as soon as you can.  Work your way into more inspiration for relationships that will please you.

Here are two exercises for experiencing more inspiration for relationships:

  1. Do something that inspires you.  It may be writing a poem, listening to music, or taking a walk in the sun.
  2. Think back to a time when you felt really inspired, confident and secure and let that memory attune you to those feelings now.
  3. If you can’t shake the blues, just let yourself experience your feelings without resistance.  This will gradually help you feel better.

Please share the results of your exercises for inspiration in relationships in the blog.

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New Year Resolutions For Couples

By Bob Lancer
Friday, February 3rd, 2012

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Advice for self-change is most timely at the start of a new year.

Here is some of the most valuable relationship advice I know: Don’t give up on self-improvement.

No matter how many times you let yourself down by slipping into your old pattern, keep at it.  You will achieve self-improvement and experience more fulfillment in your relationship.

Advice for self-change is most timely at the start of a new year. It is a great time for setting goals as resolutions.

Use these goals as your relationship guide for the year.

Follow this relationship advice by making a list of changes you want to make in yourself.  Here is a sample, gleaned from participants in a Relationship-Guide Seminar I recently presented.

Sample Relationship Guide For Self-Improvement

  1. I will lose my pattern of becoming so infuriated when my mate commits what I regard as a mistake.
  2. I will remain more relaxed, secure, at peace within when my mate relates with our children in a way that I do not like.
  3. I will live in a rush-free way, to avoid being uptight in how I relate with my mate.
  4. I will find creative ways to insure that I get enough rest so that I can connect well with my mate.
  5. I will be more consciously aware in the present moment while relating with my mate.
  6. I will eliminate complaining.
  7. I will lose the habit of blaming my mate when I feel dissatisfied.
  8. I will use a kind and loving tone of voice in place of my habit of speaking with annoyance.
  9. I will maintain my peace and poise instead of losing my patience when my mate is later than I expect.
  10. I will handle disagreements without volatility or arguing.

Following the relationship advice of creating this relationship guide for self-improvement will help you make the changes you want from yourself.

This relationship advice will also help you avoid the common relationship mistake of focusing too much on the ways that we want our mate to change.

There is a law of relationship wisdom that applies here: Before you can receive improved relationship skills from your mate, you need to demonstrate improved relationship skills with your mate.

Happy Marriage Tips:

  1. Write your list of self-improvement goals.
  2. Look at it daily.
  3. Choose one item a day to keep uppermost in your awareness.
  4. Spend time each day visualizing yourself following through.

Share yourself-improvement relationship resolutions in this blog.  They may help your fellow bloggers to implement the relationship advice presented here and to see ways that we want to change and incorporate them into our own relationship guide.

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