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Sometimes the best way to deal with a relationship problem is to not deal with it?
Sometimes the best way to deal with a relationship problem is to not deal with it?
I’m not talking about living in denial about your marital difficulty.
Nor is this surprising relationship advice suggesting that you overlook the toll that marriage strife can take on the quality of life.
But when your relationship is dissatisfying, the best relationship wisdom to follow may be to NOT make any direct effort to try to improve your relationship!
Whether you are contending with marital bickering, a lack of intimacy in your marriage, or you are finding yourself feeling more demoralized by your relationship than inspired by your relationship – the surprising love-advice may be to NOT work on your relationship.
The solution to your marriage problem may be to focus on a life-goal that does not directly relate to your spouse.
Think about your deepest intention for your life that is NOT about your marriage or your mate.
When you concentrate on fulfilling your deepest intention for your life, a sort of magnetic field surrounds you, drawing to you all the things and conditions you need to succeed in that intention, including the happy marriage condition that aligns with it.
Sometimes the reason a relationship is not working out is because you are making the relationship TOO important.
When you focus on your deepest intention for a meaningful life, any marriage problems that oppose that intention will be resolved by your magnetic field.
By focusing on fulfilling your intention for a truly meaningful life, you allow life to solve your relationship problem for you.
Relationship Repair Exercise:
- Think about your deepest intention for your life, what you need to pursue to give your life its deepest sense of meaning and value for you.
- Write that intention down.
- The next time that you and your partner experience marital conflict, take out that written statement and focus on it, instead of focusing on what seems to be going wrong with your marriage.
Share in this blog the results you experience when you apply this relationship advice for fixing a relationship by NOT working on it.
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