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Advice for relationships can help you lead a more satisfying life.
There is no such thing as relationship advice that can help you find the “perfect relationship.”
We do not find relationship perfection in professional relationships, friendships, or romantic relationships, at least not in the sense of the relationship living up to our highest hopes on a constant basis.
Even the most harmonious marriage hits trouble spots.
When we fall in love it seems that this really IS our perfect match, but all too soon this state of blissful compatibility proves to be a transitory, if not an illusory experience.
Being alone is not the answer. As wonderful as spending quality time with yourself can feel, solitary existence eventually starts feeling lonely and confining, and enforced isolation turns into a most severe form of torture.
And yet our yearning for relationship satisfaction can become distracting, diverting too much attention from other important matters, like:
- Earning a living
- Achieving professional goals
- Contributing something worthwhile to the world
- Developing your individual gifts and abilities
- Exploring your individual interests
- Maintaining sound physical health and fitness
- Following your own true spiritual path
So as important as relationships are, we can make them too important.
This happens when we count on another person too heavily to rescue us when we feel unhappy, when we feel insecure, when we feel a lacking in self-esteem.
Even the best relationship will not provide you with a non-stop supply of personal gratification, including emotional, intellectual, spiritual and sexual satisfaction.
The same relationship that seems wonderfully enchanting today can seem like an unbearably difficult relationship tomorrow.
Realistic expectations help us to place relationships in proper perspective.
We need to develop the inner fortitude, focus and balance to pass through both the highs and lows of love and marriage, friendship and professional alliances without losing our practical foothold on life.
You develop this fortitude by striving to go through the experience of getting your way and of not getting your way without losing your way.
When you feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster ride due to a relationship problem, remain dedicated as you can be to avoid losing your focus on meeting the rest of your needs for whole, balanced, successful life.
While there is no such thing as relationship advice that can help you find the “perfect relationship”, following this advice for relationships can help you lead a more satisfying life.
Receive your FREE Relationship Advice through this blog. Simply ask Bob Lancer your question and receive his Lancer’s Answer in this blog.
Wisie Members: Please feel welcome to share your views in this blog regarding any of the Wisie videos, and to ask questions about how to make the most of them.
