Archive for February, 2012
By
Bob Lancer
Tuesday, February 28th, 2012
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Envisioning yourself in a wonderful intimate union moves you toward that wonderful fulfillment.
How many really happy married couples do you know?
Do you know ANY that experience the kind of loving harmony and deep relationship satisfaction that you would like in your own love-life?
When we look at an intimate relationship from “the outside” we may imagine that it contains beautiful qualities of a “perfect match”, when the truth may be far from that.
You never REALLY know what goes on between two people in private.
You don’t even know for certain what is going on within two people while they APPEAR to be perfectly compatible and blissfully happy together.
All you can REALLY know is what you are imagining about any given relationship condition.
Even your own relationship, or your experience of having no close relationship, is an imaginary condition.
The moment you begin thinking about a great relationship, or about a relationship problem, you are viewing a mental vision of harmonious companionship or in harmonious companionship.
Thinking of yourself being without an intimate relationship means that you are viewing a mental representation of yourself being alone.
And here is the crucial point: You create what you imagine!
To feel deprived of marital bliss, you must imagine yourself in a relationship condition that is lacking in the love you want, and what you imagine you create in your life.
What you imagine to be true about your love-life creates physical conditions that match that thought.
Envisioning yourself in a wonderful intimate union moves you toward that wonderful fulfillment.
Envisioning yourself in an unhappy conflict or lonely situation creates matching physical conditions in your future.
Perhaps the main reason why we see so many tragic break ups, so many couples in strife, so much anxiety about romance, so much sad loneliness in the world is because so few people understand the creative power of their imagination and how to use it.
Relationship Tips For Relationship Bliss:
- Notice what you are thinking about.
- Drop thoughts of relationship problems by focusing your attention on your present experience, without thinking of your past or future.
- When you feel calm and relaxed, create mental images of yourself in totally fulfilling harmony with the true and perfect love of your life. Try to feel the sense of satisfaction that would bring you on all levels, including the physical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual.
Share in this blog the results you experience when you apply these relationship tips for for relationship bliss.
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By
Bob Lancer
Monday, February 20th, 2012
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Sometimes the best way to deal with a relationship problem is to not deal with it?
Sometimes the best way to deal with a relationship problem is to not deal with it?
I’m not talking about living in denial about your marital difficulty.
Nor is this surprising relationship advice suggesting that you overlook the toll that marriage strife can take on the quality of life.
But when your relationship is dissatisfying, the best relationship wisdom to follow may be to NOT make any direct effort to try to improve your relationship!
Whether you are contending with marital bickering, a lack of intimacy in your marriage, or you are finding yourself feeling more demoralized by your relationship than inspired by your relationship – the surprising love-advice may be to NOT work on your relationship.
The solution to your marriage problem may be to focus on a life-goal that does not directly relate to your spouse.
Think about your deepest intention for your life that is NOT about your marriage or your mate.
When you concentrate on fulfilling your deepest intention for your life, a sort of magnetic field surrounds you, drawing to you all the things and conditions you need to succeed in that intention, including the happy marriage condition that aligns with it.
Sometimes the reason a relationship is not working out is because you are making the relationship TOO important.
When you focus on your deepest intention for a meaningful life, any marriage problems that oppose that intention will be resolved by your magnetic field.
By focusing on fulfilling your intention for a truly meaningful life, you allow life to solve your relationship problem for you.
Relationship Repair Exercise:
- Think about your deepest intention for your life, what you need to pursue to give your life its deepest sense of meaning and value for you.
- Write that intention down.
- The next time that you and your partner experience marital conflict, take out that written statement and focus on it, instead of focusing on what seems to be going wrong with your marriage.
Share in this blog the results you experience when you apply this relationship advice for fixing a relationship by NOT working on it.
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By
Bob Lancer
Monday, February 20th, 2012
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We seek relationship advice for more relationship bliss.
Experiencing a great relationship is like drinking a powerful, positive tonic.
We seek relationship advice for more relationship bliss.
But our need for relationship guidance is endless.
No matter how much experience with good relationships and bad relationships that you have had, there is still more relationship wisdom for you to gain.
Personal relationships and professional relationships are infinitely intricate, it seems.
While at first this may not seem to fit into the category of inspiring Relationship Quotes, this quote by William Faulkner has its relevance to motivation for relationships:
All of us failed to match our dreams of perfection. So I rate us
on the basis of our splendid failure to do the impossible.
What this advocates for me is to continue making our very best efforts for the perfect relationship.
If a great writer like Faulkner feels unsuccessful, how are we to presume that we SHOULD already know it all about creating a wonderful relationship.
The point is to endlessly make your most splendid, even heroic effort to fulfill your relationship dreams, whatever the outcome.
Every relationship break-up, every moment of relationship ecstasy, offers you relationship wisdom lessons that you can apply to have a better relationship experience in the future.
Whether you are a disillusioned dater, or on the rebound after you got dumped, or dealing with grief and loss after losing a long-term partner, or feeling frustrated by a mate who argues on and on, don’t give up on your “happily ever after” love project.
Perhaps you are angry at yourself for losing your temper when you promised yourself you would not do that again.
Whatever form of relationship dissatisfaction you are struggling, with, apply Faulkner’s quote by not giving up on your relationship quest.
Instead, make another “splendid effort” to succeed for love.
Falling in love is easy. To achieve lasting marital bliss or any other form of relationship success takes a willingness to learn, to grow, and to try again, and again, and again.
What lesson in relationship wisdom have you gathered from experience? Please share it in this blog.
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By
Bob Lancer
Wednesday, February 15th, 2012
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Creating imaginative ways to bring joy into your relationship can solve a marriage problem by bringing healing to both of your hearts.
Relationship in trouble? Feeling the relationship blahs? Missing that magical spark? Want more FUN in your relationship?
Before you consider a break up here is a way to wake up to your relationship dream come true! All you have to do is to fall in love with your mate, AGAIN.
And recharging that spark of feeling in love in your relationship is really easy to do.
That wonderful soul mate energy that kept you so high on life is available right away.
Here is the formula for a happy marriage: Shift from being a complainer to being a creator!
Instead of complaining that your mate is not more loving, more considerate, more passionate, think up ways to create good times for you to share. That kindles the fire of perfect match energy!
Please take this fun-relationship advice most seriously.
It is a proven way to make your relationship more joyful, to make your relationship more passionate, to make your relations more magical… because it is how to fall in love again.
Stop complaining about the way that you are being ignored, taken for granted, argued with, critiqued. Instead, come up with a creative way to a nice time together. Don’t let your serious relationship get too serious!
Relationship Tips to Fall In Love again:
- Be like children together and color a picture with crayons!
- Pretend you are in a romantic movie together.
- Dance during the commercials!
- Before you see your mate again, think up a creative way to greet him or her. You might sing your hello, opera style, even if you have a terrible voice.
Bringing more creativity into your marriage can save you the time and money of going to a marriage counselor!
Instead of being reactive, be creative! This is real marriage help.
Even if your mate doesn’t choose to play along, even if he or she seems displeased. Just try another approach. Keep working at creating good, happy times together. That’s how to be irresistible!
And as YOU work on thinking up creative ways to create sweet moments with your mate, YOUR heart will open and your love will flow.
Creating imaginative ways to bring joy into your relationship can solve a marriage problem by bringing healing to both of your hearts. It can work better than trying to work out your issues.
Creating now, delightful times that you share brings newness into a long-term relationship. And isn’t newness part of what makes falling in love so special?
Have you applied this relationship advice in your love life? Share in this blog some creative ideas that you have put into action to recharge your marriage.
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By
Bob Lancer
Monday, February 13th, 2012
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The more emotional you feel, the more confused, inaccurate, and unreliable your thinking will most likely be.
Just about all of us at one time or another wonder if we are in a healthy relationship or in an unhealthy relationship.
Of course you probably never wonder about this during those times when you feel wonderful about your relationship.
It’s when we are feeling unhappy, feeling lonely, feeling hurt, feeling attacked, or feeling angry with our partner that we question if we are in a really good relationship.
We ask ourselves, “Is it time to leave?”when we are going through hard times together.
Here is some relationship advice to help you deal with this common situation: Don’t try to make your mind up when you’re feeling emotional.
The more emotional you feel, the more confused, inaccurate, and unreliable your thinking will most likely be.
The time to decide on the question, “should I stay or should I go” is AFTER the wave of internal emotional turbulence has passed.
There is no such thing as a happy marriage that stays happy all the time, and yet, at the beginning of a relationship, when we first fall in love, that defines our impossible expectation.
The fact is that you expect too much of yourself if you expect to know if your relationship is healthy or not when you are feeling upset, anxious, or desperate.
To follow relationship wisdom we need to learn how to suspend judgment and trust however long it takes for our nerves and emotions to settle down.
Only when you feel calm, confident and secure can you figure things out and make the best relationship decisions.
This relationship advice also applies to how to go through GREAT relationship experiences.
When we are feeling very elated, we are prone to over-optimism, which can lead us into a hasty commitment based on very superficial judgment.
It is not necessary, nor advisable, to repress your emotions so that you can make good relationship choices. Just let your emotional highs and lows pass through you, and await a calm emotional base before you try to judge if this is the right relationship or the wrong relationship for you.
Are you wondering if a particular relationship is right or wrong for you right now? Share in this blog some of what is going on in your relationship (or in a friend’s relationship) to receive some suggestions for a healthy relationship strategy.
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By
Bob Lancer
Tuesday, February 7th, 2012
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Trust that you are worthy of love.
Conceiving of yourself as worthy of love is important relationship advice.
Trust that you are worthy of love. Advice like this, if followed, can save a marriage.
Any self-concept that that causes you to feel UNWORTHY of love can jeopardize a relationship.
Help yourself to feel more secure by NOT holding on to any idea of yourself that makes you feel inadequate.
How you think about YOURSELF impacts your feeling of security in love and relationships.
Here are 2relationship tips to help you to feel secure in your marriage and in relationships of all kinds:
1. If you worry about another’s disloyalty or infidelity, look within yourself to recognize and release yourself from ideas of yourself as being unworthy.
2. Open your mind and heart to ideas of yourself that inspire you with feelings of self-respect and security.
Anyone who feels truly secure about themselves does not worry about a friend or lover being unfaithful.
If you are feeling jealous or insecure in your relationship, you probably incite relationship strife.
Follow this relationship advice for more relationship harmony: take a closer, deeper look at your ideas of yourself.
You are bold, beautiful, strong, intelligent, successful, and totally good. No inferior idea of yourself is worth holding onto.
You have the power to createthe wonderful life, and to attract the wonderful relationships, that you desire.
You are worthy of love and respect and as long as you trust that you areyou attract great people who feel that way and who treat you that way.
Here is an exercise for a better relationship based on the love advicethat may cure jealousy and insecurity, being presented here:
- Take an honest look at your concept, idea, or mental image of yourself.
- Write down the first 5 traits that you think of.
- Next, write down 5 additional traits that you would like to be true about you, traits that would help you to feel more secure about yourself
- Imagine how you would feel if you actually possessed those ideal traits
- Finally, practice living in those positive feelings about yourself.
You don’t need to live in imaginary thought-dreams that make you feel insecure ina relationship.
Do this exercise to help you to feel more secure in every relationship. Please share your thoughts, questions and experiences related to this relationship advice in this blog.
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By
Bob Lancer
Monday, February 6th, 2012
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The wisdom for creating a good relationship will dawn to guide you.
Guess where the best relationship help advice comes from.
It comes from experience. Those who know how to fix a relationship have gone through the pain of a broken relationship.
If your relationship is in trouble, realize that you are going through an opportunity for a real relationship help seminar.
Whatever emotional pain you might be in, seeing it as an opportunity for personal growth in relationship wisdom, can help.
You don’t necessarily need to seek a relationship expert for relationship advice. Just pay attention to your relationship experiences.
Look for what you can learn from every quarrel, ever tender hug and kiss, every moment of relationship unhappiness and relationship bliss.
Your relationship saving guide will arrive as you CONSCIOUSLY go through every relationship challenge as a student.
This relationship help applies to every type of relationship, including a romantic relationship, friendship and business associates. It can even be applied for better parent-child relationships.
For instance, lets say that you feel down because your relationship is not more exciting.
Look for your solution in the problem. In other words, pay attention to what is going on to see exactly what is causing your relationship to be off track, what is keeping it from being more exciting.
You might observe that you are your mate are approaching life too seriously too keep love alive in a lively way.
Perhaps you need stop working so hard at resolving conflict, and instead just let your conflicts come and go, letting them pass without struggling to fix your partner.
To receive relationship advice for more physical intimacy, for more lasting love, for better communication, instead of reacting against what you do not like, pay attention to what IS.
The wisdom for creating a good relationship will dawn to guide you.
Here is an exercise for relieving relationship help wisdom from within:
- Write down a simple statement of a relationship problem, like, “We seem to be drifting apart” or “The relationship lacks affection.”
- Then, describe the relationship solution you want in place of the relationship problem, like “we are interacting and feeling close” or “We affectionately touch one another to our mutual satisfaction.”
- The next step is to turn your relationship solution into relationship help wisdom by looking for opportunities to do those things that will bring you more of what you want.
Please share the results of your exercises in this blog.
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By
Bob Lancer
Friday, February 3rd, 2012
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When you feel inspired about relationship possibilities in life, you attract more wonderful relationship possibilities.
We need inspiration for relationships.
When you feel inspired about relationship possibilities in life, you attract more wonderful relationship possibilities.
Haven’t you had the experience of feeling really positive about yourself and your life, and in that positive state something magical occurred?
When you are in a great mood you are more personable. People feel uplifted just being around you. They feel drawn to you on an emotional level.
Advice for relationship attraction: To experience more inspiration for relationships, remember that you attract more of what you want when you feel positive, than when you feel negative.
If you doubt that you will ever find a really satisfying relationship, your doubt works against you finding more relationship satisfaction.
This is one reason why forgiveness works so much better than holding onto our issues.
When you feel down, upset, or annoyed, you repel positive people, relationships and experiences.
Isn’t it ironic that when we feel down about our current relationship (or no relationship) we are actually making it less likely that we will find the relationship satisfaction we long for?
Advice for relationship attraction: Whether you are currently in or out of a relationship, work yourself free of your grievances or feelings of discouragement as soon as you can. Work your way into more inspiration for relationships that will please you.
Here are two exercises for experiencing more inspiration for relationships:
- Do something that inspires you. It may be writing a poem, listening to music, or taking a walk in the sun.
- Think back to a time when you felt really inspired, confident and secure and let that memory attune you to those feelings now.
- If you can’t shake the blues, just let yourself experience your feelings without resistance. This will gradually help you feel better.
Please share the results of your exercises for inspiration in relationships in the blog.
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By
Bob Lancer
Friday, February 3rd, 2012
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Advice for self-change is most timely at the start of a new year.
Here is some of the most valuable relationship advice I know: Don’t give up on self-improvement.
No matter how many times you let yourself down by slipping into your old pattern, keep at it. You will achieve self-improvement and experience more fulfillment in your relationship.
Advice for self-change is most timely at the start of a new year. It is a great time for setting goals as resolutions.
Use these goals as your relationship guide for the year.
Follow this relationship advice by making a list of changes you want to make in yourself. Here is a sample, gleaned from participants in a Relationship-Guide Seminar I recently presented.
Sample Relationship Guide For Self-Improvement
- I will lose my pattern of becoming so infuriated when my mate commits what I regard as a mistake.
- I will remain more relaxed, secure, at peace within when my mate relates with our children in a way that I do not like.
- I will live in a rush-free way, to avoid being uptight in how I relate with my mate.
- I will find creative ways to insure that I get enough rest so that I can connect well with my mate.
- I will be more consciously aware in the present moment while relating with my mate.
- I will eliminate complaining.
- I will lose the habit of blaming my mate when I feel dissatisfied.
- I will use a kind and loving tone of voice in place of my habit of speaking with annoyance.
- I will maintain my peace and poise instead of losing my patience when my mate is later than I expect.
- I will handle disagreements without volatility or arguing.
Following the relationship advice of creating this relationship guide for self-improvement will help you make the changes you want from yourself.
This relationship advice will also help you avoid the common relationship mistake of focusing too much on the ways that we want our mate to change.
There is a law of relationship wisdom that applies here: Before you can receive improved relationship skills from your mate, you need to demonstrate improved relationship skills with your mate.
Happy Marriage Tips:
- Write your list of self-improvement goals.
- Look at it daily.
- Choose one item a day to keep uppermost in your awareness.
- Spend time each day visualizing yourself following through.
Share yourself-improvement relationship resolutions in this blog. They may help your fellow bloggers to implement the relationship advice presented here and to see ways that we want to change and incorporate them into our own relationship guide.
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