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One wisdom key for better relationships is growing into a better person

It’s simple: a key to enjoying better relationships is for us to grow into better people.

This doesn’t mean that if you are feeling dissatisfied in a relationship that you must be a “bad” person.

You can be a WONDERFUL person. In fact, you probably are pretty special to be interested in a wisdom blog like this. You are looking for answers. And that’s great, because as the Biblical Quote states: “Seek and you shall find”.

Having worked with couples for DECADES I have come up with one very simple formula for how to save a marriage from destructive conflict.

Instead of relying on criticizing your mate OR YOURSELF, work on being a better person.

By a “better person” I mean pursuing the fulfillment of your higher vision of yourself. I have found this to be a powerful key to better relationships.

You can start anywhere. For instance, I love writing. So one way that I can grow into a better version of myself is to work on becoming a better writer. I do this by writing profusely, including blogging weekly, and by reading literature by writers that I admire. I also have the audacity to routinely visualize myself as a great writer, superior even to Shakespeare!

You might wonder, “how does growing as a writer equate with how to save a marriage.”

Once again, it’s simple! I feel better about myself when I pursue my dream, and as I witness my writing skills improving, I feel happier too.

Feeling good about myself and happy in my life makes me more loving, kind, and easier to get along with!

Here are two exercises for growing into a better person for better relationships:

In what ways do YOU want to become a better person? Take a few moments to make a list of the self-improvements you want to make.

In what instances do you rely on complaining and criticizing for better relationships? Think of at least one way that you can improve
your handling of those instances.

This blog is your opportunity to contribute to a WORLD that displays higher relationship wisdom.
Please share the results of your exercises in the blog.
Become part of the world’s relationship solutions.

There are MANY ways that I want to grow. I want to be less emotionally reactive when my mate does not see things my way. I want to express more kindness in my way of handling issues.

I have seen this formula for how to save a marriage from strife work in my own marriage and in many of the relationships that I have had the privilege of serving.

So one wisdom key for better relationships is growing into a better person.

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