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Whether you make up or break up with someone, it does not necessarily mean that you have really freed yourself from your grievance.
Whether you make up or break up, do it with forgiveness.
When you resent someone you are, in essence, holding onto your pain.
You are also forcing yourself to relive a painful episode.
Whether you make up or break up with someone, it does not necessarily mean that you have really freed yourself from your grievance.
You are holding yourself back from happiness
as long as you hold onto a grievance.
When partners come back together after a conflict, or even after a break up, they remain split beneath the surface as long as one of them holds on to the past’s hurt.
Even though we break up with someone, we remain internally stuck with that person as long as we continue feeling slighted by their past deed.
Whether we stay together or go our separate ways, as long as one carries hurt in his or her heart, the relationship calls for healing.
Sometimes we fear the healing of the hurt because we do not want reconciliation. We want to remain apart, we don’t want to expose our heart to any more abuse.
In an odd attempt to protect ourselves from getting hurt, we hold onto our hurt like a shield, but that shield only “protects” our hearts from healing.
We make up or break up with the expectation that this will bring an end to our pain,
but that does not necessarily happen.
BEFORE you make up or break up, you healing needs to be done.
Relationships don’t really end; they merely change form. We are all in a relationship with one another.
To heal a relationship does not necessarily mean that you must stay or get back together. It means that, at least as far as you are concerned, you live in a healthy emotional state, free from fear, in love.
When you make up or break up in true love, forgiveness insures that the relationship that continues is a truly healthy one.
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